If you are anything like me, your kids are your world. When the missus and I decided to add to our family seven years ago we expected some growing pains but we also knew there would be bright days. Looking back, my oldest son’s birthday was Tuesday, these seven years have been an incredible journey. But as my youngest ends his days of breastfeeding, my wife and I find ourselves in a new chapter of our relationship.
There are places where we have definitely grown apart, but a lot of places where we have grown together and grown up.
With Valentine’s right around the corner, I wanted to just urge you parents to take this week to rekindle those embers. Don’t wait until the 14th to do some grandiose expression (don’t get me wrong, DO something incredible… but don’t wait until the day itself!).
In case you are at a loss for ideas, I’m going to give you five great ideas that you can do without having to hire a babysitter!
1. Make It A Movie Night
We have all been binging our favorite show on Netflix, but take one night after the kids are in bed to pull out one of your favorite movies from one of those dates past. Make some pop corn, or even better yet… some chocolate covered fruit (if you are tight on time for prep just order one from Edible Arrangements). Remember to set the candles, prep the pillows, and spend a quiet night in with your most important friend.
2. Write a Note
Men and women alike love the surprise of getting a nice handwritten note. I pack my wife’s lunch and that neatly folded cream-colored paper is something she looks forward to. It doesn’t happen every week, but it does happen more often than not. Feel free to make it as sweet or as naughty as you want. Just remember, it’s something you are intending them to read at work…
3. Play Hookie!
One of the best things about the school year is that the kids are occupied from around 9 until 3! Imagine what you’d do with your special somebody if you had six hours to do anything. I try to make a hookie day date with my wife once a quarter. Some days we stay home and do the laundry, other times we go and sight see while everyone else is at work. Whatever you choose to do, remember to be present. Don’t let the small things that they do get to you, pass them off for this wonderful day.
4. Show Appreciation
Guys try so hard! Sometimes we just can’t translate your subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) hints. But when we get them, we try to act on them. It could be something as simple as doing the laundry or the dishes. Often we get so caught up in life that we forget to appreciate the daily efforts. Gratitude alone will make the day brighter and your relationship that much smoother.
5. A Kiss Begins with K
It might seem simple, but we so often pass day by day without something as meaningful as a kiss. Take a moment every day to kiss. It doesn’t have to be passionate and ground shaking. But do take a moment every day to embrace your special someone in this so personal way.